How To Date Filipino Women: 10 Things You Should Know When Dating A Pinay

Source: Christian Filipina Blogspot

There is a growing number of Filipinas dating foreigners and if you are a Westerner who also wants to hitch a Pinay, then perhaps you are wondering how those men easily win the heart of the women who are clinging on their arms. Well, Filipinas are not easy to please and are hard to convince.

If you want to date Filipino women, here’s a how-to-do list for you. If you are determined in dating a Pinay and eventually marrying one, this will be very helpful for you.


#1 Be Polite

In general, Filipinas are conservative and demure. Yes, there are hot chicks, bar girls, and flirty Pinays too but the majority of the women in the Philippines are shy and reserved. Their culture taught them to put a high regard on themselves.

So, be very careful with your behavior whenever you are with her. Watch your words, don’t ask offensive questions be. Most importantly, don’t make any sexual advances because it will turn her off.

#2 Talk with humor

Filipinas are bubbly and friendly. They laugh easily and they love to have fun. If you have great stories or joke to share, don’t hesitate to crack it as long as it is not offensive.

#3 Don’t be touchy

Source: Becoming Filipino

In the West, girls don’t mind touching and kissing even on first dates. However, this is a big no-no in the Philippines. We are talking here about the majority of the Filipino women, not the bar girls and go-go girls you meet on clubs and discos.

While there are liberated women in the country, Filipinas, in general, remain shy and reserved. They are not comfortable with men touching them or flirting with them. Just act naturally and do not ever make her feel uncomfortable.

#4 Be a gentleman

You will never go wrong by being a gentleman. Filipinas still love this trait and they still prefer to have a boyfriend or husband who possesses this attribute.

By being a gentleman you should practice “thank you” and “please,” dress decently and avoid the f-bomb and other ways of swearing. Be kind and respectful all the time. You can also show this by opening the door for her or offering her a seat.

#5 Be generous

If you are wooing a girl, whether it’s a Westerner, a Filipino or not spending something for your woman is always a point for you. If you can afford to buy her flowers, chocolates, give her family a present and treat her to a tour, that would be a big plus for you.

When you are out on a date, pay for your meal. Some modern Filipinas don’t think that this is necessary anymore but if you want to impress your date, this will work.

Also, if you hesitate to spend, she might think that you are broke. There are already a lot of cheap men in her country and she doesn’t want a foreigner to be added to the list.

She wants a man who can afford a family and one way of making her feel this is by being generous. You don’t need to be luxurious but give when it is needed. Also, give her presents during your anniversary, on her birthday and other special occasions that you will be sharing together.

#6 Learn to cook Filipino food

Source: Good News Pilipinas

Filipinos love food. In fact, if you are dating one and you visited her home, you will probably agree that there’s a feast whenever there are occasions.

If you have slept in her place and if she’s still with her family, their breakfast will blow you away. Usual breakfast includes tocino, tapa, hotdog or corn beef paired with egg, rice, and coffee. Filipinos love food and if you are skilled in the kitchen, this will be a big plus, you will definitely impress her.

#7 Be kind to her family

Filipinos are family-oriented and they have a tightly-knit family. If you’re a foreigner looking to marry a Filipino woman, you should be kind to her family. The people around her matters to her.

Their opinions and feedback about you will help you make or break it.So always be respectful, courteous and polite whoever is entertaining you in her home.

#8 Show interest in her culture

Source: Good News Pilipinas

Since you came from different cultures, it would impress her if you make her feel that you are interested in learning and understanding her roots.

You can ask questions, learn to speak in Filipino or in her local dialect and try their exotic food. Try to eat balut, mango with bagoong or dinuguan. You can also try to learn a Filipino song and serenade her.

#9 Learn the things that entertain her and her family

For instance, most Filipinos enjoy karaoke. They have this natural inclination in singing. In fact, karaoke is always part of parties or celebrations. If they invite you to join in the singing, don’t turn them down.

They are also fond of games and dancing, though not as much with singing. So, if they want you to participate, just play along. Filipinos are not difficult to please when it comes to entertainment because they love to laugh.

#10 Reach out to her family

This is different from being kind because this suggests that you exert effort in getting close to her family. This might mean sitting for a drink with her dad and brothers, going with her mom and tita to the mall or market, and playing with her younger siblings, nieces and nephews.

Filipina women have huge families and dating one will open your doors to them. Don’t make her family feel intimidated because most Filipino families feel inferior with a foreigner but they are always accommodating and hospitable. So, in return, don’t make it hard for everyone, be friendly and approachable.

Dating A Filipino Woman, Worth It

Source: Life Beyond the Sea

Dating a Filipina woman needs time, dedication and patience. You also need to spend but don’t squander your money, especially if you want to build a family. Always consider her family because they will always matter to her, so it helps a lot if you get along well with her clan.

Although dating a girl from the Philippines is quite challenging, ending up with one for marriage is worth it. A number of foreigners who married a Filipina wife are happy with their married life.

If you want to date a girl from the Philippines, start your search by joining online dating sites. This is the best outlet to find one. Do not delay you search so you can find your girl soon.

Try the different online dating websites like,,,,, and, and see how it will do wonders to your life the way it does to others.

Do you have other tips on how foreigner men should date Pinays or Filipina women? Share us your thoughts on our comment section.



  1. Be a gentleman, buy her flowers, remember her birthday? Wow, what deep introspection! Uhh..this kinda goes for ANY respectful woman, eh?

  2. I have nothing but respect for Pinay women. They are some of the most beautiful women on Earth. I find it unfortunate for me that I am Black, and I have heard that Pinay women only have eyes for White guys. That’s cool, I guess. Everyone has their preference. But I live in USA, and I don’t really need to go half-way around the world just to get discriminated against. I can do that by staying right here in America.

    • Robert, don’t believe everything you hear or read. Although racial discrimination is present to some degree in every culture, do not box yourself in.
      I’ve heard that there is strong racism against whites in Thailand, but that would not deter me if I wanted to go.
      Another thing to consider is that generally speaking, you get back what you put out.

      • Hi David. Thanks for your response, and I wanted to say that your words are very correct. I have found this out by making friends with several open-minded Filipinas.

    • Robert, meet a few Filipina ladies first, and see how you go. If you like one, let her know you find her attractive….Tell her. Be kind attentive and don’t rush things. She may want a proposal/commitment, before she becomes your lover. If you do this, don’t just drop her once you have achieved your goal. You will break her heart. Also face the fact that you may have to be gentle with her, possibly for years, when having sex with her. If this is too much trouble, stick to bar girls. Then you can probably bang on madly without worrying. But if you want a lady to have your children with, a Filipina is the one. I know nothing about you, but if you are a young bloke, (under 30) go for it. If you are an old guy (60yo or more) that’s a different matter.

    • Hi Robert! Hmmmmm about 2 years ago I fell in love with Black American, I can say that it is one of the most wonderful days of my life. I truly loved him deeply. But after a few months chatting and calling each other he just disappear without saying anything. I am just thankful to God because we haven’t meet each other in person. I do believe that everything happens for a reason. As for you, I can only say that whatever our color or appearance is that is not important. The important thing is that we have a good heart. I meant to say the inner beauty of the individuals. Take care and God bless you!

      • Maligayang pagbati Delskie. How can you really fall in love with someone you have never met? Never trust anything, or anyone, you find on the internet. Siya apos y maging ganap na wanker. Believe it or not, some people get a kick out of doing stupid things like that. Check his IP addy, track him down, and order him lots of pizzas, or perhaps, several tonnes of coal.

        If I were a young bloke, and met someone as innocent and loving as you seem to be. I would be over there to meet you, as fast as I could get a Visa.

        Paalam magandang babae….Marum.(Ang pusa maglaro ng chess)

        PS. I hope my Taglog is not too bad. I am going over there to retire shortly. So I am learning the language first.

    • Wow, you are so right. I’m black also and I think that Filipino women are outstanding. I was fortunate enough to have a Filipino girlfriend for about a year. It took me two years to win her over. If I had to do it again I wouldn’t hesitate. I still see her from time to time and I really love her.

    • You wrong I just got me one form MeetMe. And now we getting married. I am black and I have dreads and her family in the Phillpines lives me bro. If you want a woman to cuff, yeah they the best.

    • Im very sorry about that.. But im sure once u win their heart, color doesnt matter anymore. ive seen some filipina who got a black partner. Dont give up.


  4. Number 5 is something to scratch off this list. As a Filipina, receiving any form of gift seems like a bribery. From a very conservative family, I was raised to not expect any gift from an opposite gender trying to woo me. I was also raised to practice equality, such us offering my share in paying food on dates etc. unless the guy will insist stating he’d feel emasculated if I offer my payment the second time around. “give her family a present and treat her to a tour, that would be a big plus for you” I would personally would not like to feel as if the guy paid my family to have me, or bought me stuff so I could return my affection. No emotion is bought, this alone tries to hint how materialistic Filipinas are. That is just wrong. And please, do not believe that you have to gift her on “anniversaries”, birthdays or any type of occasion. That will just lead to “tampo” or disappointments once you miss one certain occasion. Best to celebrate this occasion with nothing but a greeting, a kiss and dinner with just the two of you to make it special. Sometimes, a breakfast in bed + a love letter is the best for of gift that would make Filipinas “kilig” for years. Again, no lavish gifts are mandatory. The best way to get in a Filipinas heart is to be able to offer great conversations that will make her interested in you.

    P.S. “give her family a present and treat her to a tour” again is a big No-no. If the Filipina truly likes you, her family would be the one to offer to tour you around and experience the country with them. Again, this should be their treat, not you.

  5. I am a brown skinned Aussie,(three quarters Scots, by bloodlines, and one quarter aboriginal) and when I was 17, the Filipina ladies all wanted me, but I only had eyes for one. The problem I found was our physical disparity. Is this part of what they like about western men? My lady only grew/stretched from a tiny 4.5″ to 6.5″ even after 2 years of lovemaking. I learnt to be very careful with her. She said she loved me even more, for my care and attention to her during lovemaking. I know we western men love filipina ladies for their muscle control. Mine could squeeze so tightly, that I could lift her bum off the bed. What man wouldn’t enjoy that? Something which caused a WTF reaction from me, was that many of them love being bitten. (quite hard) But if it pleases, them do it for them. If you make a special effort to please your lady, she will make an even greater effort to please you. My lady was very demure in public (no kissing or cuddling, but madly wild in bed. This used to worry her a bit. She said that she was brought up to be a good quiet modest girl, but she was totally shameless with me in bed. She never dreamt she could be like that. We should have married and had lots of children, but both our parents prevented that. Her family was quite wealthy, mine were average middle class Aussies. (self employed) So here I was, a young Aussie lad of no particular prospects. They concluded that I was after their money. So I was warned off, and she was sent to Germany rather than Aust. To finish her education. That was where I met her, on the beaches of the Gold Coast where I was born. I used to see her on the beach by herself, all alone. So I eventually went over, said hello, and taught her how to surf a Malibu board, and we quickly became GF BF and then lovers.

  6. I’m black and I had numerous filipinas they have never had a penis bigger than 6 inches maybe because the white guy is so small.They can’t get enough of my thick long dong.

    • Sorry Charlie. That alone doesn’t make you a great lover. I used to really turn my lady on with oral sex. I would take the submissive position by sitting or kneeling on the floor between her legs, with her perched on the edge of a lounge chair or the bed. I would then spend the next half an hour or more enjoying her lovely lady bits. She always had six or more orgasms, before I even tried to enter her. Then I would watch her eyes. Once I could see fear or hurt in them, I would not penetrate any deeper, and proceeded with that as my maximum. She loved me even more, for my care and attention to her. (So she said) They are very brave little ladies, and will never tell you if you are hurting them. So. If you want a decent lady, to marry, and have your children. Treat them with kindness and love. Be a dominant male, but not a caveman. If however you only want Bar-girls, your approach is probably OK. I honestly wouldn’t know.

      Purrrr….Marum. (Die Schiedeessekatze)

    • Really into yourself Charlie man that has to bring his dick size up and thanks that’s all women think about is a big dick is most of time gay just saying don’t be so jealous of white people be proud to be black well who you are

  7. @Anna, point taken. However, when I was 17 – 18 I used to buy my lady gifts quite often. Her family was far more wealthy than I was, and she said I shouldn’t. My reply was, that I loved her so much that I enjoyed doing it. Especially if I got too rough during our lovemaking, and made her cry. The gift was an apology. As I was earning very little in those days, she knew I was sincere. If she had a “Tampo”, I would usually do something really outrageous, and she would snap out of it. She, in turn, loved me far too much to stay annoyed with me. (So she said). Usually she would give in, and leap on me with teeth, fingernails, lips tongue,anything she could manage, and instigate a wild lovemaking session. I did notice, that she was nowhere near as gentle with me, as I was with her. Our only wish, was to get married as soon as we could, and have lots of beautiful “mestizo” children. Na magandang babae ay gumawa ng langit ang aking buhay. I am going over there shortly to retire (not to find a lady) and see out the rest of my life,and enjoy my memories.
    BTW. I hope my Tagalog is not too bad – just learning. In our day we all spoke Spanish – her dad was Spanish, but his daughter thought of herself s totally Asian. She had the best genes of both races though. You may not believe this nowadays, but back in the 60s, it was frowned upon for a young Asian lady, from a good Asian family, to go out with western men. It was hinted, that all they wanted was what we had in our pants, and inferred that they were a bit sluttish. This was only partly true, for I loved what she had there too. For both of us, this was just one facet of what we loved about each other. I was rather big, and extremely muscular, and she was petite, with a beautiful brown, soft, rounded bum, which used to drive me mad to see naked. As well as finding each other madly physically attractive, we enjoyed each other’s personality, and mere company.

    So as you can see, aside from respecting each other’s traditional cultural expectations, there are few hard and fast rules. Each couple gradually makes their own. You have to leave your minds open, enjoy the differences, and allow yourselves to change, and above all have fun.

    Purr…. Marum Katze.

  8. Only date young ones, they get old and ugly fast. Also philipinas are only good for a year then you should change for a new one. There are millions of them

    • what an useless comment.
      If you really think like that than your future will lonely.

      Everyone gets old and ugly, that is part of growing old.
      But based on your reaction I think you are just a child without any respect.

      I hope life will be hard for you so you will respect more.

  9. By Jove old snot. You really are a nasty bastard aren’t you? I suppose you live in a house devoid of mirrors.

    Grooowwwwwll,…Marum.(Isang ulol pusa)

  10. Comment:Filipino ladies are very beautiful and have a Good behaviour,they are calm and polite,that is Why I love them

    • @Mustafe. God Mate, your stereotypical prejudices, are depriving you of a great experience.

      I would have thought that a lady’s nature and intelligence, would be more important in a long term; partner; lover; wife, relationship. Not only that, with the muscle control they have, sex is joy beyond belief. Your loss is some other lucky bloke’s gain.

      Purrrr….Marum.(Die scheideessen Katze)

  11. I think Filipinas are the kindest women on earth. I am currently writing a book about Filipinas and foreigners, and trying to clear up any of the stigmas of each. Many westerners have false impressions of Filipinas. However, I have met and interviewed thousands of them and can attest to the fact that many are sketchy. However, we are all our own individuals and free to make our own choices. I still say Filipinos are the best women on earth. You just have to really know them before you commit. – coach Blaise


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